“But Queen Vashti refused to come at the king’s command conveyed by the eunuchs. At this the king was enraged, and his anger burned within him.” – Esther 1:12
In Esther 1, King Ahasuerus asks for his wife Vashti to dance for him and his friends. His request for her to be willingly objectified is met with a resounding “no” resulting in Vashti’s banishment.
Would Vashti have repeated her “no” if she knew the consequence?
Noes are complicated but not meant to be fluid. They are a part of our everyday negotiating in each of our relationships.