At various points of each of our lives, we find ourselves stuck – in our work lives, romance lives, family lives and any other facet of our lives.
In 2003, I was incredibly stuck in each area of my life. I recall that I hadn’t dated anyone in years – in fact, I forget how long it had been since I had an actual date. My weight had skyrocketed, and I didn’t find myself attractive anymore. Additionally, my professional life had walked backwards a few steps and hadn’t moved forward in a year or two. I had applied to seminary and wasn’t accepted at my top choice.
At 30 years old, I had found myself spending each Saturday night at a pottery painting place because – who would want to date overweight, underaccomplished Michelle? At least I was making some fabulous pieces of art…
I suppose the catalyst of change was beginning a weight loss program in 2004. As I lost 40 pounds, I also began to gain back the confidence I had lost. The chain reaction of one change led to dating once again and, eventually, finding a more suitable job for me.
Losing weight was not the reason other parts of my life changed. At this point, I’m in a wonderful relationship even though I weighted as much as I did in 2003. Confidence comes from within – not our external accomplishments and appearances. Our assurance and genuine worth stems from the spark of the Divine that resides in each one of us.
Sometimes it just takes a bit of time to find the confidence, inspiration and Spirit once again. And one agent of change – whether small or large – will be the catalyst for our lives to move out from our current mud trap.
Confession: currently, for me, my place of being stuck centers around creativity in my professional and extracurricular life. I have a terrific life but just feel like my inspiration well is dry. By continuing to try and believing that the creativity/confidence/etc. already exists within me and that the Holy Spirit is giving me what I need, I know that this time of “stuck” will loosen.
So do you find yourself stuck in one area of your life- whether in your attempts to date, your hopes to find another position or your plans to fulfill a dream? Have you lost hope?
Just keep going. We will find our stickiness gone soon.