Recently, I began a group for single, divorced, separated, widowed, non-married coupled persons and friends (yes, even married ones!) to come together in conversation to talk about concerns that they may be going through. I named this group
Single in the Sanctuary: Unmarried Progressive Christians & Friends.
Through various conversations both before and after this group was created, I noticed how people had various negative and positive experiences being in churches as non-married individuals.
Because the institutions have changed greatly since the mid-twentieth century, families look different, churches look different and society has different focuses. This is the time for us to have these conversations on how the church can better serve people of ALL marital statuses and family structures.
I think a great spot for the conversation to begin to take place is with these questions:
What does it mean to be unmarried in an institution that focuses on families?
In what ways have you felt part of the community even though you are single?
In what ways have you felt lonely or excluded in a church because you have never been or are no longer married?
Would you like to be a part of this conversation? Maybe you are no longer married, never have been married or got married later in life and have experiences to share? Join the group here.
I remember being part of group of divorced women in seminary. These kinds of groups are very good – and necessary. “Family” can be a tricky word in the church. I tend to use “community” more often.
Thanks for sharing this!