As someone who often writes on marital status and the church, I feel it necessary to remember those who endure Valentine’s Day on their own. People splash their privilege of dates and gifts on social media leaving others to feel even more isolated and expendable. From my experience, Valentine’s Day gives privilege to the haves – whether it’s haves of money or love. During the many years when I was single on Valentine’s Day, my soul felt so insignificant. Now that I do have a Valentine with whom I can share my day and my heart, I feel blessed but I must still remember the loneliness that this day will bring many, and urge all of us to send our love to those who struggle today.
God of the broken hearts
And the lonely souls,
On this day reserved for those “loved”
Those who seem so “whole”
Give us the peace of knowing we are complete.
Just as we are.
On this life-long journey
We wander in the wilderness, sometimes.
And sometimes, we wander that wilderness alone.
We set aside our celebrations
Of pink and red and sparkles
To give our hearts to those who dwell in solitude.
May they discover joy outside of the expectations
That this day brings
And in spite of the chocolates and roses and dinners by candlelight.
For those whose singlehood is new
After a recent break in their lives
God, fill their hearts with peace
And may they see the expanding lights of hope.
For those who have been single year after year
In the shadow-filled tunnels of silence-
Those who wonder when their turn at love will arrive
And feel trapped in exile-
Open their hearts to all possibilities.
Guide them out of the wilderness.
For those who have lost loves to death
And their person abides on that side of heaven,
Uplift their spirits.
Take away the pangs of grief.
Bring light into their lives again.
For those who ache
Wondering if their love will last,
Spark their hearts with the flame of renewal
And may love rise from the ashes.
On this human-created day where some have so much
and others are empty,
Scatter your energy around, God,
So that hope abounds
And joy will be embraced again.